I couldn’t let February go without one last Valentine-y movie quote. And I hadn’t planned on using another Moonstruck quote (at least not so soon), but I couldn’t didn’t resist that, either.
This is from the same scene as the last Moonstruck quote, and it’s Ronny’s response to Loretta, who said she could resist the pull she felt toward him. She told him a person can learn from their mistakes, that they can “say yes to some things and no to other things that are gonna ruin everything”.
Ronny: Love don’t make things nice – it ruins everything. It breaks your heart. It makes things a mess! We, we aren’t here to make things perfect. The snowflakes are perfect… The stars are perfect. Not us – not us. We are here to ruin ourselves and…and to break our hearts.
The Princess Bride is like a banana split…with chocolate and vanilla ice cream and plenty of syrup and peanuts and whipped cream. (sigh) It’s big and it’s beautiful and it makes you happy just to think about it. And even though you know all the flavors by heart, it’s still delicious every single time. You can’t just take a taste of a movie like The Princess Bride. You devour it. And then you lick the spoon.
And sometimes you lick the bowl too, but only when you think no one is looking.
So, without further ado, here is my valentine to you. I hope you like the quote; and that is not a joke. You should also take a listen; but I can’t think of a rhyme for this’n. (I wonder if Fezzik would be disappointed in me?)
Westley: Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while.
Ah, To Blave…that’s what it’s all about.
As a special valentine from me to you, I’m including some of my favorite bits and pieces:
It’s hard for me to believe this movie came out in 1982 – it’s 30 years old! I was only twelve when Tootsie was released…
Okay, that’s enough talk about how old things are.
But it’s kind of amazing, right? I mean, it doesn’t feel old. And no matter how many Mrs. Doubtfires or Big Mommas come along, they can never take Tootsie’s place. Which is the place where men make ugly women but you’re still able to suspend your disbelief when she’s on screen and forget that there’s a man under there. Mostly. Really though, there is no comparison. When she slides into that booth and won’t keep her hands off her manager…then orders a drink and tells the waiter his blouse is lovely… Please… You had me at hello.
I just love Dorothy. Tootsie is a class act, and every now and then I get a hankering to watch it. Last time I did, this is the line that stood out:
Les: Being with someone…sharing…that’s what it’s all about.
You know, I think that’s what he learned in the end. Loving and being loved, caring for other people, that’s so much more important than being right or getting your way.
Welcome to (almost) February, the month that puts a big shining spotlight of misery and pain and desperation and panic and envy and contempt on love! Unless you actually are in love, which can be even worse…
Okay, I’m really just joking. But here’s the truth: Love Is Complicated. Now you know.
Anytime you get involved with another human being, it’s complicated. Just look around at the people you only work with and consider how much can go into maintaining those relationships. It takes effort: communication, understanding, compromise, forgiveness, ignoring stupidity… The list of emotional demands goes on and on. How much more so when you’re in love.
Robbie: I remember we went to the Grand Canyon one time, we were flying there, and I’d never been there before and Linda had, so…you would think that she would give me the window seat, but she didn’t. And… Not that that’s a big deal, you know, but… Guess there were a lot of little things like that – I know that sounds stupid. –Julia: Not at all. I think it’s the little things that count.
This quote just filled me with questions:
Can you be in love with someone and at the same time know they are wrong for you?
In a loving relationship, at what point is it okay to put yourself first? When is it more important to put the other person first? How do you know the difference?
When you are in love with someone, should it come naturally to self-sacrifice for them or always think of them first? Or is that something we have to continually work on and remind ourselves to do?
If you typically put your needs in front your significant other’s, does that mean you don’t really love that person?
Where is the dividing line between putting the other person first because you love them and becoming some kind of doormat?
Did he ask for the window seat, or did he just expect her to know that he wanted it?
Should we have to ask for what we want?
It’s just got me thinking about how we express our love to each other. And also how we react to those expressions of love, or lack thereof. Some people need near-constant togetherness and gestures that prove how important they are to the other. And some people feel smothered by too much attention that feels more like distrust or neediness in their partner. I’m guessing that most of us fall somewhere in the middle. The problem is that there’s so much room in there for miscommunication.
What are the “big things” that are necessary to make a relationship work?
What are the “little things” that keep a relationship going?
What’s a deal breaker for you?
Have you ever started a relationship knowing that it was doomed to failure?
Have you ever refused to enter a relationship with someone you really liked, because you thought it would ultimately fail?