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Okay, so I’m doing resolutions again this year. A little late, haha, but that’s me all over. I did okay with my goals in 2012 – not as well as I’d like, but my failures were in those giant goals I set for myself that would require a radical overhaul of my 43-year-strong habits. Cause, you know, that’s not too much to ask of myself, right?

I spent a lot of last year beating myself up for those failures, and the rest of the time learning how to suck at something without hating myself for it. (If anything, I’d say that’s the real lesson I learned.) At the end of the year, I wrote a big long post about what I thought  I’d learned. Basically, that for those major life change, long term goals, I really needed to plan out steps and smaller goals along the way. Which is not a wrong idea, in and of itself. You know, if I knew how to do small steps like a normal person with good sense and a modicum of patience.

So, naturally, at the beginning of 2013 I did the typical Michelle thing: I made the work of goal achieving harder and bigger than it already is. I mapped and planned and plotted and charted and listed. Same old thing; biting off more than I can chew and overwhelming myself before I even really get started. All my charty listy mappy plans were just too cumbersome and added more work to already difficult (for me) goals. My checklists fell by the wayside almost immediately, and I struggled all last year to get my act together goal-wise, not getting any further ahead than I had been at the beginning. 

I did accomplish a lot in 2013, I really did. But I missed the simple resolution process that I’d started in 2012. I wanted to do many of those same goals again in 2013, but without the reminder and prod here on the blog, I let a lot of the smaller things, like visiting family and taking an outing each month, fall by the wayside. I missed doing those things, but they don’t come to me naturally. Without my resolution list, I simply forgot to aim or plan for them.

This year I’m going back to the 2012 method of setting and tracking my goals here. Some of those not-so-simple goals are back, but I’m working with a life coach to help me learn to set reasonable steps, or goals-within-a-goal. But I think the main thing she’s going to help me with is to slow down and not bite off such big chunks. Patience. And to enjoy this whole process, because it should be fun and inspirational and a kind thing I’m doing for myself.

So here are my 2014 goals:

  1. healthy budget
  2. healthy diet
  3. exercise 
  4. spend time with family or friends I rarely see
  5. go someplace different or go to an event each month
  6. keep a daily thankful journal
  7. Write at least 6 Queries for the blog this year
  8. re-paint my kitchen and put up shelves
  9. take a computer class
  10. go to bed at the same time every night
  11. get up early every morning

So that’s it, my 2014 resolutions. I’m excited to get started, or re-started, as the case may be! I hope 2014 is a great year for me and for you, too!!

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  1. I remember 2012 and how you beat yourself up over not meeting the huge goals you set for yourself. This year’s resolutions seem much kinder. I love how you are always working to improve yourself and your life, and all with a healthy sense of quirky humor!

    January 13, 2014
    • Well, not always with a sense of humor, lol! Even last year I had lots of bad moments when I was really down on myself for not succeeding, especially after working for so long. But it’s getting better. But honestly, I wouldn’t be doing any of this if I’d never started blogging..

      January 13, 2014
      • I love all the friendships we’ve made through our blogging. You were one of my first blog friends!

        January 13, 2014
  2. Love your doable list! What are queries for your blog?

    January 13, 2014
    • They are questions (or queries, because that sounds fancy, haha) that I ask a bunch of people and then I post the answers. It’s really fun to see where people say the same things or different things. Or where they say no, but when they explain it, they really have the same opinion as another person who said yes. Language is such an interesting thing!! Also, I’m often surprised at what people say, so that’s fun too.

      I’ve got them all available to read (Do you believe in love at first sight? is a really popular one) – just click the Queries tab at the top of the page if you’re interested.

      January 13, 2014
      • That’s great! I had wondered if I missed the memo on publishing our blogs for money. A girl can dream, right?

        January 14, 2014
        • Oh, I see what you mean, haha. No money being made here, I assure you.

          January 14, 2014
  3. Happy New Year! I just posted my goals for 2014 as well. There really is no deadline. Small steps and successes always help lead toward success. I predict you will have a great year!

    January 13, 2014
    • And Happy New Year to you! I am so, so far behind in my reading. I think I had about 150 unread emails this evening sitting in my box – and quite a few of them are for your blog! I predict we will have a great year. I sure hope you do!! Good luck with your goals!

      January 13, 2014
  4. I don’t make resolutions but if I did they would be a lot like yours. I do have a word for the year…every year a new word. Last year was purity. It was a stinker! The only word I have had that I feel like I got nowhere near being a better person for having studied and pondered it.. I have a lot of work still to do there. But out of it came this year’s word…treasure. I feel better about this one.

    January 14, 2014
    • I didn’t used to make resolutions, and only really did it because I had the blog to make me keep up with them. I mean I wanted them,but I know I wouldn’t have done any of it without the public incentive to follow through.

      I keep thinking about doing One Word, and I keep meaning to, but I never have followed through with that. I think you picked a hard one last year. I really like your word this year and I think that is a great one to focus on. So many treasures around us that we don’t always notice.

      January 14, 2014
      • In many ways blogs make us better peeps. I look forward to updates on your list.

        January 14, 2014
  5. You’ve made some very very important resolutions! Most people forget to take care of these little monotonous details of their lives when making resolutions, but they’re so much more important sometimes.
    And it looks very doable too 🙂

    January 16, 2014
    • I am toning it down this year, trying really hard to take small steps I can actually do, and not giant gulps that choke me. Thanks for your vote of confidence! I think they are (mostly) doable.

      January 29, 2014
  6. Good luck. You made eleven more resolutions than I did. I’m still thinking about it. 🙂

    January 19, 2014
    • Thanks! I never made resolutions until blogging. I figure if I put them on here, I’ll have to at least try, just to save face, haha!

      January 29, 2014

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