the Infinite Monkey speaks: on failure
Random brilliance from across the blogosphere…
People do not despise you for your failures. … People despise you for not being transparent about your failure.
– Larry Carter
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I think this is very true. People are much more forgiving when someone comes does wrong and comes clean about it afterwards, than when they lie about it and deny. We see it in politics and business all the time.
Yes, I agree. I learned that pretty early working with the public in retail. People can get so very upset and angry when things don’t go their way or when something gets messed up. But if I just listen to them and acknowledge what they’re saying, and if I admit to what is my fault, then they are much more likely to calm down. If you deny and pass blame, they will surely get more angry. But it’s much harder for generally decent people to keep attacking you when you say you’re sorry and try to fix it.
We should be thankful for our mistakes and learn from them. Our mistakes do not define us the help to shape the person we become as we learn from them. That’s my view at least.
That’s a good view, I think! I am not always, or even often, thankful for my mistakes. I learn from work mistakes most of all, and take them as a matter of course. But I’m not as philosophical about my personal mistakes, more’s the pity. But I’m working on adopting your great attitude.
Well we should allow mistakes to define us. Life in the end is one big lesson to be learnt from; most importantly you have to enjoy it and have fun.