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Random Thoughts – my social fear

My big social fear is ridicule.

As much as I delight in sharing my opinion, I am pretty well ruled by that fear.

Looking foolish, stupid, incorrect.

It keeps me in check a lot of the time.

To reveal the workings of my mind and heart is to make myself vulnerable to ridicule.

Better to keep silent than to expose my tender shoots to the harsh elements of public scrutiny.

Blogging has made me face this fear in a big and very public way.

I still fear being called out, laughed at, or trampled on in some way.

I still super fear scorn, the poison on the tip of ridicule’s blade.

I still don’t let some of the me’s in me come out too much.

Or ever.

But I’m working on that.

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Do you have a social fear?

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In Which I Get All Sanctimonious and Then Regret It

I’m a pharmacy scheduler for a drug store chain, and it’s my responsibility to make sure pharmacist’s vacations and requests off are covered in my district, including sick days and other call-outs. I knew the snow we got last Wednesday night was going to be an issue on Thursday, so when I got the first call at 7 am, I was nice but pretty much said, “the store has to open, so you need to try to get there.” Luckily, her pharmacy partner had a 4-wheel drive, and she went in instead with no problem.

But as the day wore on, more calls and complaints came in, including questions like, “I had a hard time getting in today, how do I call out next time?” 

You don’t! You had a week’s notice that this snow was coming! You could have gotten a room in town last night. You’re a pharmacist, and you make a lot of money, in part because of your expertise and in part because you are essential personnel. The pharmacy can’t legally open without you – there will be customers who need your help today. You should have planned better.

It’s stressful for me when I get call-outs I know I can’t cover, and I got a little more irritated with each situation. More than once I found myself saying to my boss or to a pharmacist whose partner didn’t show up, “If I knew I had to be at work today, I would have been there.”

And it’s true. I have driven to work in the snow, and left in the snow. Sleet, rain, ice? No problem. I’ve worked through tropical storms and even a hurricane once (in a Virginia gets side-swiped kind of way, but it was still scary). I’ve never missed a day at this job because of weather.

Until Friday.

I figured I’d be okay to get out of the driveway by 1 or so on Friday afternoon, which would have been fine. And failing that, I didn’t really need to get out until Saturday afternoon when I had to babysit, and I could stop at a store and do the payroll then.

But an 11 am conference call was sprung on me, and I’d need to be on my work computer to take it. I should have just said “I can’t make that,” but after all my big talk, I felt like I had to. I said I’d be at work if I had to be, no matter what the weather conditions. So I had to back that up with effort.

And shortness of breath. And sore arms. And back pain.

After two snowfalls, each followed by freezing rain, I had a driveway full of deep, crusty snow to get over. And my driveway is long. It was just too deep for my undercarriage, and the crust so thick and unyielding that I couldn’t push through.

So I shoveled. And shoveled.

Damn my big mouth. “If I had to be at work today, I’d make it in no matter what.”

Man I wished I could suck back a lotta words on Friday.

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If I had it to do differently, I’d have parked at the bottom of the driveway on Wednesday night. 

Oh yeah, and I wouldn’t have been so holier-than-thou. 🙂

Knowing that I didn’t have to work on Thursday (or even Friday if I couldn’t get out) made it really easy for me to be judgy about those pharmacists who didn’t plan ahead themselves. Even if they thought in the back of their minds that they’d just get a free snow day, that’s no excuse for me to act so superior.

Irony: When I came in the house to get on the call (humbly, with the expectation of a “weather isn’t an excuse” talking down for not making it in to the office) there wasn’t anyone on it. The call had been cancelled.

Have you ever regretted some big talk?

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Learning to be Thankful again


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I’ve added Thankfulness to my goals list (again) this year.

I was seeing the world in a more positive light after I started being Thankful in 2011. It was awesome, I loved it.

But by 2012 I thought I had it down pat. So I switched from recording my thankfuls every day to writing a weekly thankful. I thought I was ready to do less. I even wrote a huge recap post about my thankfulness journey, ending with how it was time to move on to the next step. Basically meaning it was just too much of a hassle to keep track of a daily thankful list any more. You know, because I’ve got so many other things to do that I really needed that five or ten minutes of my life back each day. 

Did you know that if you don’t keep practicing something you’ve just learned to do, then you’ll slowly forget everything you thought you’d already mastered? Well, you will. 

Cue another post about how I needed to get back in a thankful frame of mind. I decided I would go back to writing daily thankfuls in September of 2012. Then I promptly stopped doing any thankfuls at all. *sigh*

I really miss them though. I miss feeling thankful and being reminded every day of all the good I have in my life. I miss immediately seeing the positive in every situation, and that’s how far I had gotten before I let it all slide away. 

So I’m trying again! If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again! Right? So I’ve started my Thankful in 2014 page and I’m going to do my best to keep it updated. I’ve pretty much got to start all over from scratch and get myself in the habit again of finding great things in my day. And as Puddleglum said, you’ve got to start by looking!

Do you have anything in your life that you have to keep learning over and over and over again?

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Random Thoughts: proper shower attire

So I got in the shower and got my glasses wet.

Because I wore my glasses into the shower.

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At least it wasn’t socks.

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Have you ever worn something into the shower?

Or maybe worn your slippers to work?

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