Movie Quote Monday – Hook
As I’ve gotten older, particularly in these past few years, my greatest “did not do” regret is I did not nurture some of the most important relationships in my life. And now it’s too late. It’s over…and I missed it.
Moira: It’s so fast, Peter. It’s a few years…and it’s over. And you are not being careful. And you are missing it
This makes me think about my grandparents. I wish that I had spent more time talking to them, asking questions and especially listening. Because I didn’t really know them. I loved them because they were my grandparents but, at least in the years I can remember, I knew them as…well, they were peripheral people in my life. When I came in, I gave them a hug and a kiss. When I left I said, “I love you.” I spent the in-between time interacting with other people in the household, with aunts and uncles and cousins, people I had more in common with, people closer to my own age.
On my mom’s side, there was mostly just my Nannie in the house, so I did converse with her. But I was young enough that I don’t remember the conversations; I remember the feel of them, but not the words. What I would give to have a record of those talks, to have cared enough to pay real attention. To have understood what I was letting pass me by.
The truth is I didn’t know my grandparents as individuals. When they were still available to me, I chose to put my focus on other things. And I think that we allow the same thing to happen with any number of relationships in our life. We put our focus elsewhere, without thought, without realizing that, however much time we have, when it’s gone, that time will have been too short.
We only have so much of ourselves to go around, only so much time and attention, only so much energy and emotion to give. These are resources that we are daily choosing how and where to use, and my question is, “Are we choosing well?”
I haven’t always chosen well. Have you?