I once asked a boyfriend, “What are you thinking right this minute?”
We were driving somewhere, I don’t remember where, and my mind was flitting from this topic to that, just all over the place. Nothing important in there at all. And suddenly I wondered what had been in his mind right at that exact moment when I was thinking about whatever it was I was thinking about.
Was it something big? Was it some little nothing? Had he been thinking “it’s almost time to get the oil changed,” or “there’s a bird,” or “what are we going to eat for dinner,” or… It could be anything!
I turned to him with a huge smile and asked, “What are you thinking right this minute?” I was girl-excited; I wanted to know(!).
“You must have been thinking something.” I mean, there’s no way his mind was completely blank, right?
And so I clarified my question: “I just want to know what was going through your mind right at that minute. No matter how little it was.”
“Nothing!” He was quite adamant. And annoyed. His mind was, apparently, a complete blank.
I persisted in a persistent manner to inform him that there was no way his mind was a complete blank.
“There’s no way your mind was a complete blank. You had to be thinking something. Even if it was something tiny and inconsequential, like, I don’t know…like…’those trees are really green.’ “
“I wasn’t thinking anything at all.” He could persist too. “I’m not trying to hide anything from you, I swear! I wasn’t thinking anything!”
And so I gave up.
“You don’t have to tell me; I was just being curious.”
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how to start a fight out of nothing at all.
Is it really possible for your mind to be completely blank for long stretches like that?
Or is it just a guy thing?
Have you ever started a fight out of thin air?
What are you thinking right this minute?