the Infinite Monkey speaks: on boundaries
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Because I love my children, I tell them, “no.” And I stand behind that “no.” I still love them, even when they make poor decisions, even destructive or hurtful choices, but part of that love involves me telling them, firmly and repeatedly, that while my love for them is steadfast and unconditional, their behavior is unacceptable.
Love does not mean saying, “if it makes you feel good, do it.” Love means teaching and enforcing boundaries, but doing so kindly and as gently as possible. Love means offering praise for wisdom and guidance for folly.