I couldn’t let February go without one last Valentine-y movie quote. And I hadn’t planned on using another Moonstruck quote (at least not so soon), but I couldn’t didn’t resist that, either.
This is from the same scene as the last Moonstruck quote, and it’s Ronny’s response to Loretta, who said she could resist the pull she felt toward him. She told him a person can learn from their mistakes, that they can “say yes to some things and no to other things that are gonna ruin everything”.
Ronny: Love don’t make things nice – it ruins everything. It breaks your heart. It makes things a mess! We, we aren’t here to make things perfect. The snowflakes are perfect… The stars are perfect. Not us – not us. We are here to ruin ourselves and…and to break our hearts.
This is such an awesome movie that even my Dad quotes it. There are few movies he’ll watch more than once, and this is one of them. His thing is, “I’ve seen it; I know what happens. Why watch it again?”
I know! That’s just…wrong.
Anyway, are you sick of me saying, “I love this movie”? Because I love this movie. In fact, I’m quoting this movie in my head right now. As I type this post. Ronny is carrying on about his wooden hand at this very moment. (“Bring me the big knife, Chrissy.”) I mean, can you blame him? Johnny’s got his hand. Johnny’s got his bride. (“She won’t do it.”) Do you want Ronny to put away his heartache and forget? Callous.
But that is not the quote we are here to hear today. This is another quote that I really like, and it seems appropriate for January, as this is the time of year when so many people review their lives and decisions. Some write check-off lists of things they want to do or don’t. And some people dream up whole new selves that they desire or want or need to be.
Loretta: A person can…can see where they’ve messed up in their life and they can change the way they do things. And they can even change their luck. So maybe, maybe my nature does draw me to you; that don’t mean I have to go with it. I can take hold of myself and I can…say yes to some things and no to other things that are gonna ruin everything. I can do that.
I like the idea that we are capable of improving ourselves, of being more than a repetition of past behaviors. Or past mistakes.
But it’s interesting to me that Loretta found happiness – joy, really – when she let go of those ideas and simply followed her heart (her natural urges). She never would have been truly happy had she forced herself to stay with the safe, but wrong, man.
Is Ronny right when he said that going against your own nature is “just about the most dangerous thing” you could do? Do we ultimately self-destruct when we attempt to force changes that are unnatural to us?
Where should you draw the line when it comes to becoming a better you?
PS: “Birds fly to the stars, I guess.”
PPS: I love this movie.
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