I have often felt responsible for other people’s emotions. I don’t know if this is a female thing or simply a human thing. But sometimes I wish I could say something like this:
Kate: Listen, don’t feel guilty. Because then I’ll start feeling guilty that I made you feel guilty and… You know… Actually, that was the old me. Just feel guilty. Swim in it. Till your fingers get all pruney.
Do you ever feel responsible for what someone else is feeling, even though it’s not really your fault?
Have you ever just said, “Go ahead and wallow in it. I give you permission.”?