I’ve struggled in my mind – still do sometimes – with those “if only” thoughts. It certainly is more convenient to excuse what I have not done with my life, my various faults, and my mistakes on circumstances or upbringing or luck or whatever. But the truth is that I am responsible for myself, for how I approach or react to life, for how aggressive or passive I am when it comes to getting what I want from my life. It would be a lot easier to not have that responsibility, but the it’s all mine.
It certainly is! Generally speaking (we can find exceptions for everything), it’s true. I think that’s what bothers me so much :). I’ve had more time to digest that idea, but I can tell you, it really bothered me a lot when I first came across it.
I hate to admit it, too! But I guess that’s the point, is that we hate to admit it. Still, it’s kind of a wonderful and freeing thing, to embrace the fact that we are responsible for ourselves and for what we do with our lives. Sometimes it’s hard to break away from our natural inclinations (mine is laziness and fear), and sometimes it’s other people’s expectations that we are held down by. But taking charge of ourselves and our destinies can be as liberating as it is difficult.
Yes, sometimes it’s hard to admit that we are who we have made ourselves. So much easier to believe we would have turned out differently “if only.”
I’ve struggled in my mind – still do sometimes – with those “if only” thoughts. It certainly is more convenient to excuse what I have not done with my life, my various faults, and my mistakes on circumstances or upbringing or luck or whatever. But the truth is that I am responsible for myself, for how I approach or react to life, for how aggressive or passive I am when it comes to getting what I want from my life. It would be a lot easier to not have that responsibility, but the it’s all mine.
That is a thought provoking quote! Hmmm…I don’t know if I like it….
It certainly is! Generally speaking (we can find exceptions for everything), it’s true. I think that’s what bothers me so much :). I’ve had more time to digest that idea, but I can tell you, it really bothered me a lot when I first came across it.
It is really hard for me to wrap my head around this idea, I hate to admit it, but I think it is true.
I hate to admit it, too! But I guess that’s the point, is that we hate to admit it. Still, it’s kind of a wonderful and freeing thing, to embrace the fact that we are responsible for ourselves and for what we do with our lives. Sometimes it’s hard to break away from our natural inclinations (mine is laziness and fear), and sometimes it’s other people’s expectations that we are held down by. But taking charge of ourselves and our destinies can be as liberating as it is difficult.